If you're just joining us for the Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Want to Have (by Natalie Chambers Snapp) Book Club, click HERE to begin at Chapter 1.
TOMORROW'S HEART SISTERS; Teaching Our Daughters to be Good Friends.
Chapter eight opens up with a thought from Natalie that made my knees knock...
"...girls learn how to navigate relationships by watching how their mothers navigate their own." (p. 125-126)
Did any other mothers of girls just find their heart in their throat?
Seriously, what a humbling and terrifying concept to take in, considering navigating relationship is HARD, HARD work!
"...we mothers of daughters have the power to guide our girls and show them how to navigate life in the world of women--one girl at a time." (p 127)
Natalie poses the question of what kind of girls would we like our daughters to have in their lives. Do we want them to have friends who talk about them behind their backs or do we want them to spend time with girls who are willing to say "I'm sorry" when necessary? I know what I wish for my daughters. I wish for them women who will choose to give them the benefit of the doubt, not offend easily, say I'm sorry when necessary, and--most importantly--point them toward Jesus.
Natalie tells us that we, as mothers, can influence our daughters' decisions when it comes to friends. I believe that and it actually terrifies me a bit. I feel very convicted. I started looking at my own friendships and the drama I have faced, just this week alone. I read Natalie's suggestions on how to get started in being a good role model for our daughters in the way of healthy friendships. Here are her suggestions:
So what do we do should our daughter encounter a "mean girl"? How can we guide our daughters to be the kinds of girls who treat others well and are secure in who they are? And what do we do if/when our daughters encounter a "mean girl"? Natalie offers some practical advice. Our daughter should...
It's hard work, but we must focus on being diligent in training up our daughters to have and maintain healthy relationsships. Natalie closes out this chapter with some thought-provoking questions that will force us to look a little deeper at our own relationships:
Join us Tuesday, June 30, 2015 for Chapter Nine.
Written by Mandy.