"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?'' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~Marianne Williamson
If you are just joining us for the Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Want to Have Book Club (book by Natalie Chambers Snapp), please click HERE to begin at Chapter One.
Chapter six of Natalie's book is about setting up boundaries and what boundaries are and are not. It's a meaty chapter that addresses some touchy subjects.
Natalie opens by discussing how boundaries are necessary and good for us. For one, we need to set them for ourselves in order to protect our hearts and our families. Boundaries--often looked at as a "dirty" word--are healthy, Natalie shares. And a must for maintaining sanity and for being able to give our families our best.
For setting holy boundaries, Natalie suggests the following:
Sometimes, however, we will most likely come across an unhealthy relationship that requires we lay down some ground rules. Natalie shares how to recognize when a relationship necessitates boundaries:
So, now that it's been established that setting boundaries is critical to healthy relationships, Natalie talks about inconsistent boundaries and how they can damage friendships and muddy the waters. For example, having no boundaries at all, not communicating boundaries to others, having inconsistent boundaries, inflexible boundaries, and inappropriate boundaries are all recipes for trouble.
To sum up the chapter, Natalie poses the following questions. Take some time to read and reflect on each, seeing how they may apply to you:
Join us next week on Tuesday, June 23, 2015 for Chapter 7.