MAKE ME WHOLE MINI-SERIES PART 2: MAKE ME LONELY

So this week, we are actually going to skip ahead to Make Me Lonely. This is in light of the impending doom of Friday. Yes ladies, that day has arrived again, Valentine's Day. This post is for all of you. For married women, engaged women, dating women, single women, recently broken up women. This is a must read! 

Valentine's Day tends to be filled with high expectations and painful disappointments. Those who have no one to spend the day with often feel out of place, lonely, unloved, or unsatisfied (just to name a few). Those who are in a relationship often feel unloved, under-appreciated, unsatisfied, disappointed, or lonely (just to name another few). 

Valentine's Day is a day when our God-given desires meet worldly capabilities. God created us, as women, to have some pretty unique desires. We were made in His image and we have some amazing attributes. Men were created with the other half of God’s heart. In this way, our relationships with them are often filled with the many blessings that God intended them to be filled with. However, men, just like women, are imperfect beings. They don’t always satisfy the very God-given desires of our heart and, honestly, I believe that there are times when God allows and even desires for us to experience these times of dissatisfaction. 

While God gave man to woman and woman to man, He created this relationship to further our understanding of Jesus’s relationship with the church. His desire is not that we will seek satisfaction from our earthly relationships, but from our heavenly one. John 4:14 “But whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” 

Isaiah 58:11 “And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.” 

I love the above verses, but the one that struck me the most in my research for this section was Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” 

Our God desires that we delight our selves in Him so that He can give us the desires of our heart. The love, satisfaction, appreciation, closeness, and belonging that our delicate and intricately-woven hearts desire can only be filled by The One who fully, truly, perfectly complements our heart with His own. 

So ladies, as we go into Valentine's Day tomorrow, give the men in your life a break. More than that, give them grace. The very same grace that God gives us every time He offers up a new season of loneliness that we might seek Him out for our satisfaction. Make a commitment to see your desires and even your disappointments as what they truly are; a reminder that we desire to be His and that He can fulfill all of our desires.

Father God, thank You for Your never ending pursuit of us. Thank You for Your desire to make us whole. Thank You for times of loneliness that allow us to become fully Yours. Help us to keep this lesson present in our minds as we enter the temptations of worldly satisfactions tomorrow. In Your loving name Jesus, Amen.

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Lindsey Hayes

Lindsey is a wife and mother of 5 small children ranging in age from 1 to 11 years. Lindsey is currently into her seventh year of homeschooling. Lindsey intends to homeschool each of her children as a way to give them an affordable Christian education as well as a learning environment that can be tailor-made to each of their individual needs.The past year brought many new things: A season of stepping out in faith as the Lord led her and her family to new people and places and has opened up doors to ministry that Lindsey's heart has been preparing for over the course of several years. As she is overcome by the Lord's blessing, she looks forward to the revolution that is about to take place. Sure of God's movement in the lives of women, Lindsey continues to push forward towards the goals of developing a better sense of community and purpose for the daughters of the King.